I love this blog! I found it about a week ago before that the thought not to shave my armpits or legs had not accrued to me! Well I have stopped shaving my arm pits, legs and everywhere else, I feel pretty awesome about it and I'm very exited! The beginning of January I'm going to take a pic for this blog :)
I've found a man who I really like, we've been together for two months now but he hates underarm hair on women. I had let mine grow out (I really like my underarm hair) and he asked me to please shave them, so I thought about it and decided it wasn't a big deal, and I have been shaving for him ever since. I don't really have a problem with that, but I am much more comfortable unshaven. I have told him this. Do you think this is something that could interfere with our relationship later on?
I don’t want to generalize too much, but I find it troubling when a partner values their aesthetics over the right for you to control your own body.
If shaving isn’t a big deal to you, then it’s not a big deal. But I could definitely see this attitude (my wants>your choices) playing out in scenarios that potentially matter more to you. Is he going to expect you to conform to his ideal body weight? Does he think the man should make the jokes and the woman should laugh? Who buys the birth control?
tl:dr -This specific issue might be fine, but it’s a dangerous precedent to set. Compromise is an important part of any relationship, just make sure you’re not the only one making compromises.
While we’re on the subject of sexism and women’s bodies, I want to reiterate that this isn’t strictly a women’s blog! A lot of our participants identify outside the binary, and some men submit as well! Also, not all of our mods identify within the narrow binary structure. Please keep this in mind so that we can continue to make all people welcome.
Why do you always react that rude to males who are trying to show you that women do not have to shave due to male supression? Nobody tells you to shave and that is how it is supposed to be! These guys only want to tell you that they are on your side and like women for the way they are :)
I think there is a difference between men acknowledging women’s autonomy, and assuming that women should do anything for male compliance. At the heart of these comments is an assumption that what we do is for someone with social authority over our bodies. While it is great when our friends, partners and family love us unconditionally, this blog is to showcase those who express autonomy in a particular form of physical presentation.