There’s a fairly decent chance I may end up dating a friend of mine in the near future. (There’s also a fairly decent chance that I may not, but I prefer to think positively about this.)
Another friend and I were having a conversation about body hair and she asked, “You’re going to start shaving again if you start dating him, right?” I told her I had no such plans, he is perfectly aware of the fact that I have body hair and I hope it doesn’t bother him, or else he’s not as cool as I think he is.
Then she said she’d like to stop shaving, but she didn’t think that would be fair to her boyfriend. This girl is a smart, cool, tough girl, don’t get me wrong. But for some reason she doesn’t understand that you have to be hairless when you’re dating someone. Not shaving isn’t just a luxury for single girls, it’s just a choice you make in regards to the hair that grows out of places other than your head.
I know a lot of girls who only shave out of some sense of duty to their boyfriends. I don’t understand it at all. I don’t think their boyfriends will dump them if they grow a little hair. It’s a personal decision, not one other people should make for you. I probably never would have started shaving if I hadn’t been shamed into it by my friends at age 13. It’s still really hard sometimes, dealing with the criticisms of my family. I can’t imagine dating someone who was disgusted by it, too. They just wouldn’t be someone I’d want a relationship with.